So You’re in Debt—Now What?

Debt isn’t just a bill. It can feel like a burden. It’s waking up at 2 AM, wondering if you’ll ever catch up. It’s the feeling in your stomach when an unknown number calls because, deep down, you know it’s a debt collector. It’s the hesitation before swiping your card at the grocery store because you’re unsure what’s left in your account.
And yet, the world makes it seem like debt is just a math problem, something you should have figured out by now. Budget better. Stop spending. Work harder. But what if the weight of your debt isn’t just about dollars? What if it’s about the stress, shame, and mental exhaustion that come with it?
That’s exactly why I created this series in partnership with National Debt Relief because debt is more than just money. It affects how we move through the world, how we feel about ourselves, and how much hope we have for the future.
Each month, I’m breaking down a different side of debt—not just the repayment strategies but the real, raw experiences that come with it. No fluff. No judgment. Just honest conversations about debt and what to do next.
Let’s get something straight: you are not lazy or irresponsible because you’re in debt.
Say that out loud. Say it until you believe it.
Debt happens for a million reasons: medical emergencies, layoffs, supporting family, and student loans for a degree you earned to make a livable wage. But no matter how you got here, the truth is that debt feels heavy.
It’s heavy when your paycheck disappears the second it hits your account.
It’s heavy when you avoid opening your mail.
It’s heavy when you feel like you’ll never get ahead.
Let’s be honest: the weight of debt isn’t just in your wallet; it can also be in your mind.
It’s the anxiety every time you check your bank account.
It’s the exhaustion of working overtime just to keep up.
It’s the shame when you compare yourself to people who “seem” to have it all together.
This month, we’re talking about that emotional weight—why debt feels so personal and how to stop letting it define you.
So many of us think that being in debt means we messed up. But the truth?
Everyday challenges can make it difficult to stay ahead.
Step 1: Separate Your Worth from Your Debt
Debt is something you have, not who you are. Your bank balance doesn’t determine your character, intelligence, and future.
Step 2: Face the Numbers (Without Freaking Out)
Avoiding your debt will not make it disappear, but breaking it down into actual numbers can reduce its power. We’ll discuss how to do this without overwhelming yourself.
Step 3: Make a Plan That Doesn’t Drain You
What is the biggest mistake people make? Thinking they have to suffer to get out of debt. I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to starve, isolate yourself, or work three jobs just to make progress.
We’re taking a real-life approach that lets you still live while you pay off debt.
If debt has made you feel stuck, ashamed, or exhausted, this message reminds you that you are not alone and are not a failure.
This series is here to give you the tools, the strategies, and the mindset shifts to stop feeling buried by debt and start making real moves toward financial peace.
Your debt does not define your future. Your next choice does.
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